How ardently, now, I wish for others 
what I –alas too late – wish - 
would have wished - for my own self,  
and maybe, for my parents too:  
 
some time in life – it would depend on you – 
but not too late, too late – 
 
to sit down together -  
each parent, each child, individually – 
and maybe with a few days ‘thinking time’ beforehand - 
and say – you could take this in turns – 
 
‘Ask me all the questions 
which you never, until now, thought to ask... 
ask me all the questions 
which you never liked or dared to ask... 
and I shall answer you…’ 
 
and if it goes well (as I pray it will)  
you might even incorporate this 
into a yearly family occasion:  
done with humour and with love;  
 
this is what I wish for you 
as ardently as I would have 
wished it for myself;  
for this is my regret,  
for myself; and perhaps, for them..
Michael Shepherd
http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/an-ardent-wish-for-others/